Squad

I don't know about you all and your friends but as for me and mine.. We stopped giving each other fluffy advice when twenty became thirty and thirty became PLUS. You know, when you are in your 20's and you ask your friends the question "Why am I single?" they all rally behind you and say things like "Well.. all of your exes are probably gay. You are a queen. You are easy to get along with" and last but not least.. my personal favorite "If I were a man, I'd marry you in a heartbeat." It was all cool just a decade ago, right? Honestly, I can't remember the last time I or a close friend of mine opened our mouth to tell some fluffy advice that would later manifest as red flag behavior. At PLUS, If someone asks the question why am I single? Everybody jumps in like "Hold on.. I got this one.. First of all you eat like your metabolism is Usain Bolt quick, you manage your money poorly, those communication skills are lackluster, and HoWWWw are you ashy AFTER you moisturize? Book a dermatologist appointment STAT!" Then they "conclusion" you with "Just do the work, God gon' meet you halfway and we gon' pray on it." LOL. Honestly, these types of friendships are vital. If you can't be honest with your homies, how do you expect to grow? I often wonder if men have honest conversations with their friends. Like, do they say things like "Bro.. let that hair go, your hairline begins at your nape" or "Dude.. Stop telling people that you are an entrepreneur, you drive Uber and you're 40. Hop on Indeed and get serious". If they do have "course correct convos", does it end with them boxing each other or do they hug it out? Inquiring minds want to know. Realistically, we have all had friends or even been that friend that leaps from job to job or relationship to relationship. Real, girl tribes are the ones where you can be brutally honest but at the end of the day it's all love because the goal is to be great at being the BEST version of you! There's nothing like answering a Facetime and hearing someone say "Tacos again? I guess winter bodies are made in the summer now, huh?" We all need our friends right now. Your tribe can either make or break you. What I love most about mine is, we we all want to see eachother win and if that means having some tough talks.. So be it! We are living in such a crazy, weird time! It's great to have friends to pray and touch and agree with. To keep it 100 with. To educate ourselves with and to keep eachother humble with some true shade and big love!!