A Teaspoon of Shade..

helps the medicine go down. I realized it yesterday when my phone rang at 1pm. It was a random 310 number. I decided to answer because it was Sunday, Duh! I was fresh out of church and I THOUGHT Sundays were safe days! lol. When I picked up the phone it was dead air for 3 about seconds and then the person hung up. I thought nothing of it. Two minutes later the same number called back. Hello I said, in a cheery voice. Yes, Chasity. Hey. This is ____ May I ask why you blocked me? My first instinct was to attempt to turn into the liquid substance that Alex Mack used to morph into but because I'm not a genie I had to think fast. My palms got sweaty, my face got hot and my throat felt like most of yall's do on a daily (because ya'll don't drink water). In the process of thinking fast the truth slipped out of my mouth along with a very adult answer. I said "Hi ____, well this is very invasive seeing as though I blocked you, I assumed you would be able to use your discernment to gauge my level of discomfort. Truth be told, you made me uncomfortable and I figured that there was no need for me to converse with you any further". As the words flowed out of my mouth I realized that I could have said this to him pre block and although it seemed crazy that he went through great lengths to confront me, I took the opportunity to learn a valuable lesson. One.. God will use people to teach you something about yourself. I once dated a guy who was SUPER block happy. He would block me for no reason and then come back weeks or months later with no personality changes, just new clothes. I would call him from different numbers, back him into a corner and force him to say ABSOLUTELY nothing. At the time, It felt normal. After being on the receiving end I see how uncool it is to make people "adult" when they are not ready. Second lesson I learned was.. It's okay to tell people the truth (especially in your thirties and beyond). Most people- correction- Most smart people are willing to hear their flaws and even more willing to course correct! This guy probably had no idea that he made me uncomfortable. How would he know if I never told him? I thought that by ignoring the problem it would fade away but it didn't and i'm glad it didn't to be honest. It allowed me to be bold and straight forward which it something I tend to not do often. I generally mentally check out knowing that i'm going to NEVER talk to the person again does that help them advance?? No!! I found myself a bit annoyed after the conversation ended but once I took the time to look at it from a "glass half full perspective" this man had done me a solid. He made me face the problem and he also allowed me to see more than one thing that I needed to change. So, thank you _____ for making me "man up" but..don't ever do that again ok?? Cuz, i'm not unblocking you. I said what I said now go on somewhere. We good. *neneleaksvoice*