Girls Love Apologies

Saturday, as I annoyingly sat in unnecessary traffic, I decided to listen to the radio (yep, the actual radio-no Apple music, Spotify or Tidal). After I sang the entire commercial for 877 Cash Now, A song came on that I had never heard before. It was a song from the artist Neyo but the entire time he was apologizing for being an AWFUL man. I started to grin like a a crazy lady by the time the second hook came around. As he kept singing "I'm sooooorrry" I was like yeah, you ARE sorry. Towards the end of the song I realized two things: Neyo is a genius and girls LOVE apologies. Any female that says she doesn't get a little gleeful when someone (especially an ex) reaches out to apologize is a bigger liar than the body on a Kardashian. Apologies are pretty awesome. When they are heartfelt they can even make your biggest enemy seem human. There is nothing more humbling than acknowledging that you were at fault and offering up a word to confirm what the slighted person already knew..you were wrong, dummy. LOL! I've had my fair share of being the person to apologize and I've also had my fair share of being the person on the receiving end of the apology.

I really tried break down why girls in particular love apologies and I think it's a plethora of reasons why. First of all, women (just like men) have egos. When we know we are right, our chest puffs up and we must bask in that champion moment for a reasonable amount of time. We don't necessarily say I told you so every time we are right but honey, child.. we think it Every.Single.Time. I cant tell you how many times an ex has reached out to me to tell me that I was a good woman and apologize for taking my kindness for weakness. My reaction is always the same... Thank you, you were forgiven even before this little ashy apology and bye...ashy.

Secondly, we hurt and we overthink. When someone hurts us, in the midst of us trying to process the hurt we try to figure out what we must have done in order to make the person do what they did. We ask ourselves and even our friends if maybe we "pushed too hard" or "said too much". When we finally receive our apology, it diminishes the theory we had in our head about being overly dramatic. It's confirmation that we may be crazy but we ain't that damn crazy! LOL

Lastly, apologies don't mean anything but they mean everything at the same time. Time is an incredible apology in itself. When enough time has passed, the actual need for an apology ceases. When someone takes the time to go back and apologize for something they did a year or ten ago, it makes them less of a monster and more like a person that was late to the party. The party is over, the lights are off, the clean up crew is already on their way home but the late apologist is still at the venue manually spinning the disco ball. It's kinda sad right? We feel like we gotta take the apology so that they can have the freedom we've already attained because "ain't nobody even thinking about that" and there's beauty in knowing that something we thought about so much in the beginning is completely off of our mind and building a campfire in theirs. Small, unnecessary, slightly petty, victories.

In conclusion, girls love apologies but women love people that act right and don't do a ton of things that deserve an apology. I'm the Britney Spears of this topic: Not a girl not yet a woman.. I love a good apology but I also love the idea of people not constantly coming up to me with their tails between their legs. I'm sure 5 out of ten women will think that my theory on apologies is bologna but to them I say in the most ghetto voice possible..dis my blog..git ya own. Just a little side note the best apology I received as of late came from my niece.. She told me she was sorry for not answering my phone call and she's sorry that I have no life. Touche, Gabby. Ladies and gents..What is the best or most necessary apology you have ever recieved?